Would you be able to get over it? How about that happen a long time ago, so let it go?! I’m not racist; that was my ancestors. I don’t see color. We all are equal. The constitution is for all of us. Show your patriotism by standing and pledging allegiance to the flag.
From the beginning, this country was built on my ancestors backs. Mass prison incarceration is modern day slavery. The very laws were not created as me being equal. My people were not counted as a whole being, but 3/5! While the forefathers were talking about liberty and justice for all, my people were being used as free labor; and if they didn’t comply murdered!
So, the next time you want to tell me to get over it, or that happen a long time ago, which I have been told by White and Black people; picture this image and hush! This is my platform and I will use it to inform about issues that impact my people, me and those that empathize with our struggle.
Tonight is the last night I will be 47 years old. The night before my birthday I always reflect on the year. I think about my trials, tribulations and triumphs. My goal is to be s better me every year, and vow to not let the same things that caused me to stumble this year, cause me to stumble next year.
I have dealt with some things that I have never dealt with before, and some things that I thought I would never have to deal with again. I look back in amazement that I’m still standing. Like Marvin Sapp says in his song “Never Would’ve Made It.”
I’m stronger, I’m wiser
I’m better, much better
When I look back over all you brought me through
I can see that you were the one I held on to
The you that I held on to is God. I don’t know how anyone can navigate life without Him. I’ve been through some things this year that I could have legit lost my mind, BUT GOD said not so!!
I took control of my health for real this past year. Not how I had done in the past, but with consistency. Little steps turned into bigger steps and now I see my progress. I’ve lost 75lbs so far!
As I reflect, I have no regrets. Every test has become a part of my story. My story shows the essence of Annjanette. My story has helped develop the strong, God-fearing confident woman I am today.
I’m ready for Chapter 48 of the book titled “Annjanette.”
We all face challenges that can cause us to forget our goals and dreams. We can allow obstacles to slow and even stop our progress. Along our journey, we can allow life, family, friends, limited finances, and our present social status to hinder our progress. What’s hindering you?
Have you figured out what’s stopping you from reaching your goals? You have to determine the root cause of why you haven’t reached your goals, and move those obstacles out of your way! We have to be determined to let nothing and nobody block our progress.
I’ve learned that sometimes we don’t want to figure out what’s hindering us because we will have to deal with whatever IT is. Sometimes we don’t want to face that we will have to let dead weight go. That dead weight may be family, friends, a significant other or even that job we have had for 20 years. We have to be willing to let it go.
Choosing to let go is never easy. We like to operate within our comfort zone, but if we want to excel in every area of our lives, we have to choose to operate outside of our comfort zone. Operating outside of our comfort zone included battling fear and the unknown. We can do it! We can face whatever obstacles that are hindering us and overcome those obstacles!
Make a resolution now to remove every hindrance to your success in every area of your life. Don’t delay. Start right now!
When we tackle obstacles, we find hidden reserves of courage and resilience we did not know we had. And it is only when we are faced with failure do we realise that these resources were always there within us. We only need to find them and move on with our lives. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam
There’s a leader inside of you that wants to manifest in your life. Leaders have certain characteristics that set them apart from everyone else. There are so many leadership characteristics, but the characteristics that resonate with me most are honesty, positive, good communicator, integrity, confidence and transparent. What leadership characteristics resonate the most with you? You will notice that the leadership characteristics that resonate most with you are the characteristics that you will recognize most within yourself.
You may be wondering how do I know there’s a leader inside of you. There’s been an argument that will probably continue forever between leadership scholars. One school of thought is people are born leaders, and the other school of thought is people can learn to be leaders. I believe each of us has the ability to be a leader. The issue is do we want to be a leader.
Some find out because of challenges or adversity in their own lives that they are leaders. Others seem to have a natural gravitation to leadership. They always seem to be placed in positions of leadership, or are expected to lead. Are you a leader? Do you want to be a leader? What events will have to happen for you to demonstrate you are a leader?
Rejection seems cruel and we don’t feel good after being rejected. Nobody wants to be rejected for any reason, but rejection does happen. Rejection is not the final answer. It’s how we handle the rejection.
Recently, I experienced rejection at work. I wasn’t happy, and I’ll admit that I haven’t fully recovered from feeling rejected. However, I learned some lessons from the rejection that will help me achieve success.
In every trial and test we go through we have to determine what am I supposed to learn from this experience. Our comeback determines our future success.
Here’s some lessons I have learned from rejection:
1. I can say no. So many times we relinquish our power by giving in to be used, but saying no reclaims our power over our future.
2. I have a lot to offer. The skills and experiences that I bring to the table speak for themselves. It’s time I recognize that and not expect anyone else to validate me.
3. Write my vision for my future and begin to set my vision in motion by completing tasks that will get me closer to the fruition of my vision.
4. Take the limits off of me. Don’t limit myself to being placed in a box with a lid, but enlarge my territory and refuse to have lids placed on me.
5. Don’t be afraid to take chances.
6. Always remember I have value, and refuse to allow anyone to belittle my value in their actions or deeds.
7. I can be angry and not act out. There’s a way to express myself without negativity being attached to my words or actions.
8. Let it go! Don’t let this situation hinder my progress.
9. I choose to make feeling rejected a temporary feeling.
10. Learn all I can because I want my results to be maturity and growth.
Rejection doesn’t feel good, but the lessons learned from rejection are priceless.
There are some folks that are just too woke and deep for their own good. When does good ol common sense kick in? When does analyzing the decisions and actions of others go to far? Quit trying to psychoanalyze every word and action. Let it go and recognize it is what it is. Some stuff is just not that deep!
Here are some mantras to remember to remove yourself from drowning in being woke and deep:
1. Everybody doesn’t have to agree with you.
2. It’s not your job to change my mind.
3. Speak your truth.
4. Every statement doesn’t require reading between the lines. Some people actually say what they mean, and mean what they say.
5. Self-inspection is free. Try it sometimes because maybe just maybe your lack of self-inspection is the real issue.
6. Quit passing your personal issues on to others. Deal with your issues!
7. Choose to place your soapbox on the shelf.
8. JUST LET IT GO!
I can relate to this article. My name is Annjanette. I have had people mispronounce my name and call me every other name that begins with an A, but Annjanette.
The older I have become, the more adamant I am about pronouncing and spelling my name correctly. When I entered college, instructors and classmates would ask, “What else are you called?” I would say, “Annjanette.”
When I entered Corporate America, I was asked the same question with a twist, “What’s your nickname?” I would respond, “I don’t use my nickname in the workplace. I use Annjanette.”
I’ve had managers pronounce and spell my name wrong. I insisted on my name being pronounced and spelled correctly. When my name is placed in an Outlook email, the spell check used to change it to Andante. I don’t know if it still does. There were real people who would send me an email that began – “Hello, Andante.”
I would be so tempted to reply and spell their name wrong, but I didn’t. My email would start with a greeting and then my first sentence would be, “My name is Annjanette.” Of course I would receive apologies, but I admit that those people loss work professional points with me. Not taking the time to spell my name correctly shows a lack of concern and the person doesn’t value me.
One of the latest incidents that’s still fresh in my mind happened about two years ago. I had an interim supervisor, and we had team huddles at the beginning of our shift every day. Every day this dude mispronounced my name, and every day I corrected him! Finally, I had enough! He had mispronounced my name for the last time!
I stopped the huddle and said, “Listen, you have mispronounced my name for the last time! I have corrected you every day, and I realize that pronouncing my name correctly is not important to you. Since you can’t pronounce my name correctly, call me Mrs. Halton!” From that day forward I didn’t call him by his name. If I needed his assistance and he was assisting someone else, I would say tell dude to come over here when he’s finished helping you.
Put some respect on my name!
These life lessons are not listed in order of importance, and there’s a story behind each lesson.
1. I have to love myself.
2. I’m my own Stan (fan)!
3. Sometimes I have to encourage myself.
4. God has to be a priority in my life.
5. Family is important.
6. Treat others the way I want to be treated.
7. Forgiveness frees me.
8. I can do bad by myself.
9. I know my worth.
10. Common sense will get you further than book sense.
11. Don’t lie.
12. Integrity is important.
13. Word is bond.
14. Be careful of the company you keep.
15. Be a good friend.
16. It’s not always about me.
17. Karma is real.
18. My husband is my best friend.
19. Happiness is a choice.
20. My life has purpose.
21. Hell is real.
22. Be authentic.
23. Live a life without regrets.
24. Stress kills.
25. Be informed
26. A mind is a terrible thing to waste.
27. Read on a regular basis.
28. Be open to constructive criticism.
29. Travel as often as I can.
30. Invest in myself.
31. Enjoy life to the fullest.
33. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
34. Cultivate friendships
35. Don’t let anyone misuse me.
36. Be honest.
37. Laugh often
38. Have a sense of humor.
39. Don’t be judgmental.
40. It okay to say I’m sorry.
41. Everybody will not like me.
42. Sex is good.
43. Be a good parent.
44. Be trustworthy.
45. Don’t go to bed angry.
46. Eat something you’ve never eaten before.
Cheers to these life lessons, and I can’t wait for the next 46 more! Happy Birthday to me!
I’m doing a series of vlogs to share my pet peeves. I’m posting them in no particular order. Each one shares equal importance of being on my list of topics that will illicit an emotional response from me that I say is passionate, and some may say is anger. We can debate the emotion expressed forever, but these are my pet peeves.
Do you have any pet peeves?
More pet peeves to come…